About Me

I am a proud wife and mother, and a born again Christian. I work from home as a writer while taking care of Miss N, our six-year-old, Miss M, our four-year-old and Miss C, our newest bundle of joy. Life is crazy but so much fun!

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Interesting Findings About Folate

I recently was offered the opportunity to attend a webinar about prenatal care for one of the companies I work for. Since we are considering hopefully expanding our family at some point in the future, and I have many friends of childbearing age, I thought this was fitting for me to learn about.

Any woman who has been pregnant will attest to the fact that doctors and nurses and midwives all tote the power of folic acid. We are told to take a vitamin containing folic acid before conception and all through our pregnancy. Low levels of folic acid can lead to Neural Tube Defects and premature births, among other complications.

This is not new information. What the webinar brought to light is that folic acid is not a naturally occurring substance, and some people cannot break it down and absorb it properly. This means that they cannot convert it to active folate, the important nutrient for growing babies.

This information is somewhat technical, but basically, some people are not able to convert the folic acid into folate efficiently, simply because the folic acid is not active. For these women, even taking all of the folic acid their doctor prescribes cannot prevent neural tube defects and complications, because the folic acid will not be converted into folate and get to the cells.

Researchers have developed a new produced called Metafolin. This nutrient is much more easily broken down into L-methylfolate, the folate in the cells, because it mimics the naturally occurring folates you would get from your food. This L-methylfolate is 7x more bioavailable to the body than traditional folic acid.

NeevoDHA is a new prenatal supplement created for women who are at risk for low folate levels because of anemia, obesity, or impaired folic acid absorption. It also works well for women who have a history of recurring miscarriage, which can be due to poor folic acid absorption.

I found this to be very interesting information, and wondered how long it will take for medical clinics to pick up on this potentially valuable new supplement. The L-methylfolate in Metafolin is a newly produced option that works as an alternative to traditional folic acid. If the data presented in the webinar is true, and I have no reason to think it is not, it seems that this is a very positive improvement for expectant moms or women who plan to become pregnant.

Disclaimer: I was compensated for attending the webinar and posting my opinion on my blog. I was not compensated based on the positive or negative nature of my review. All opinions expressed were completely my own.

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Saying Goodbye


How do you say goodbye to someone who has changed your life?

I have done this before, I am sure, but it’s never easy. Not the emotional aspect of it, because in this high tech world we are never more than a text or email away, but the words. . . How do you tell someone exactly what they have meant to you in a few short, tear-stained sentences?

I am a writer, not a speaker, although I do like to talk. Yet sometimes my words only flow on virtual paper, not from my mouth. Sometimes, the things I want to say simply do not make it from my mind to my mouth, but they can make it to my fingers.

Today, we bid farewell to our pastor and his wife, launching them into the tumultuous world of deputation as they at the ripe old age of “just became grandparents” head to the mission field. I do not envy them the next few years, yet I am excited for them in the many adventures and tales of God’s provision they are sure to have.

As I hugged Myra this afternoon, words failed me. So here I sit, needing to get these out of my head so I can work.

Pastor and Myra,

You know where we came from when we staggered into your church that warm August day. We were hurting, we were scared, and we were somewhat timid. You and this church welcomed us with open arms. You accepted us for who we were, not what we could do, loved our kids, and let us, no helped us, heal. For that, we will be ever in your debt. Thank you for being there for a couple of hurting "kids.
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You have been there to answer questions for parents who love their girls but have no clue what we are doing. You have assured us that we are, in fact, doing a good job.


You were there for us when we went through some very scary times. Bringing babysitters when Tim’s dad was in the hospital, and even driving them home so I didn’t have to wake sleeping kids. Myra, you were there when I was at my darkest hour, holding my hand and telling me it was OK, I did the right thing, and I will see my baby again. I couldn’t have made it through November without you.


You are the first pastor (and wife) my children, or at least my oldest, will remember. And, a part of me is thrilled that they will be able to watch you on this new journey.
Those girls love you.

So I say thank you for your ministry in our life. We love you, and you will be missed.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

I Met the Perfect Mom

Ok, before I start this post, let me say that I know. It is unwise to compare yourself to others, God gives you only what you can handle, she is not the mother of my children, etc. In fact, my friend Michelle blogged about a similar idea recently. It's a good read if you are interested. I just need to put this out there to get it out of my head.

Yesterday, I met the perfect mom. Or, perhaps I should say, the mom I want to be. She was slender, but not too slender, her children were dressed in their jammies for sleepytime at the library (I forgot about the jammies) and their hair was perfect, with little golden ringlets. (in contrast my kids looked like they had just woken up and hadn't had a bath in a day or two, both of which were true).

But appearances weren't what made her "perfect." While Miss N was engaged by story time, I was wrestling with Miss M, who doesn't usually sit, and this night was particularity wiggly. I am trying to teach her to sit but sometimes she's just not interested in story time. But sister is, and so we go.

Then I noticed it. The mom's bag of tricks. Miss M noticed it too. It was simple. Just some dollar store notebooks and about three crayons. Miss M wandered over to the table where this mom's toddler was doodling away. She just stood there, watching. The mom graciously handed her a book and a crayon. For a while Miss M was entertained. I was inwardly embarrassed that someone else had the foresight to entertain my toddler, but grateful at the same time that she was willing to share.

During craft time, instead of being flustered by the grabbing that her toddler did, she calmly guided her toddler in making the craft. When she suggested something and the answer was "NO!", it wasn't a big deal.

Then, the ultimate perfection. The librarian was handing something out and the little girl wanted, but did not need, one. She started to cry when the mom took it from her. The librarian was going to offer one, but the mom said, "no, she is fine." and proceeded to scoop up her crying toddler, ignore the behavior, and calmly walk away from the scene of the disappointment.

I was thinking on it - when Miss M starts to throw a fit, I do not react so calmly. It rarely happens in a public place, but when it does, I resort to giving her what she wants to stop the fit and allow Miss N to finish the activity. I know this is wrong, but sometimes I feel my hands are tied.

Of course, "perfect mom" had one advantage over me - her toddler was a "normal" size and younger than Miss M. Having a two year old the size of a five year old makes scooping up the crying toddler physically difficult, especially when she fights being held tooth and nail when upset.

So what do I hope to learn from this? I don't know. I need to be calmer. I need to not let the toddler's fits get to me. I need to understand that it's just a normal part of being two.

But I am not calm when dealing with a screaming child. The fits do get to me. And soon she will not be two, and she needs to somehow learn that this behavior is not appropriate.

There is a lot about this mom that I want to emulate. Being prepared (bag of tricks) wards off fits. Being calm and not giving in calms them faster, and probably limits them in the future.

I do know this. If we happen to meet up at library time again, I am going to introduce myself. Perhaps if we are friends some of her parenting skills will rub off on me.

Monday, June 20, 2011

The Breakup



I debated long and hard about blogging about this one, but then I decided, the main purpose of this blog is to record our little life, and to have a memory to look back on. This is definitely a memory that will be looked back on, even if things don’t pan out the way a five-year-old girl intends.

This past week was busy beyond belief and my kids were so tired. We did two Bible schools, one in the morning and one at night. Parenting mistake, I think, but they did have fun and Miss N seems to have learned quite a bit from both.

Miss N has a little boy that she goes to school with who also happens to go to our church. In addition to all of that, they both wear glasses, which to her is a big deal. Long ago she deemed “B” as her “boyfriend.” I recall one night when their junior church teacher heard, “If you don’t stop being mean I am NOT going to marry you!” and another time when she didn’t sit by him and he went home crushed and quite upset. She regularly will parrot anything I say about Tim and change it to “B.” For instance, yesterday she asked why me and Tim talk so much, and I said, “Because Daddy is my best friend!” and she turned around and said, “B is my best friend!”

Ah, young love.

Well, Monday of our busy week I was tucking Miss N into bed and she started crying.

“What’s the matter?”

“B said he isn’t my boyfriend anymore. He said he is Lilli’s boyfriend! (sob)”

“Oh, honey, I’m sorry.”

“Mr. Jooooossshhhh did it! He told B to be Lilli’s boyfriend. Why would he do that?” (Mr. Josh is Miss N’s teacher at church and loves to tease the kids. Sometimes she doesn’t quite get that he is teasing.)

“Well, I don’t know honey, he was probably teasing.”

“No, he wasn’t! B believed him!”

“But I do know this. If B is not the boyfriend God wants you to have, He has someone better for you. And I also know that if B is not your boyfriend, he will always be a good friend to you.”

(At this point the level of genuine tears and heartbreak was on par with a junior higher facing her first breakup. I was somewhat floored. I had no idea she was taking this “relationship” so seriously.)

“Mommy, I’m just so sad!”

“I know.”

“Mommy? Can I sleep with his picture?”

“If that will make you feel better, of course you can!”

A few minutes later I went in there to talk to her and see how she was doing and she was still really, really sad.

“Mommy? This picture is making me so sad. Can I sleep with a horsey picture?”

The next morning she was fine, so I didn’t bring it up.

This Sunday apparently they made up and the “relationship” has been restored.

But wow, I had no idea that emotions about a boy could be so strong at this age! Is this a prediction about the future for a mom of two girls? Jeepers! And I must admit, it was hard not to laugh! She was so sad but in many ways it was cracking me up!

Friday, June 17, 2011

Conversations with Miss N

The other day Miss N came to me and said, "Mommy, sometimes I have scary thoughts at night and I try to pray but it doesn't work. All I can think about is monsters."

I reminded her of the verse, "What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." and we talked about replacing the bad thoughts.

"I think about God and Bri (her friend) and I still think about monsters. I think I have room for three thoughts."

"Ok, so what is another thought you could think about?"

"Horses! God, Bri, and horses!"

She has since quoted that verse several times. I think this lesson is starting to stick. :)

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Today

Today, my baby is on my mind.

Maybe it's because we haven't moved on in the way of successfully having another on the way.

Maybe it's because so many of my friends are preparing to welcome their June or July babies.

Perhaps it's the slew of ultrasounds on Facebook lately.

It could be from the large number of pregnant women I saw at the waterpark.

It could also be the newborns I had the chance to hold a couple of weeks ago.

I'm not sure the reason. I just know that I was due around the beginning of July. And that date is fast approaching. And deep down inside, I am still sad.

Does the sad ever go away?

I am praying that my arms, or at least my belly, are filled with a new babe before the November anniversary rolls around. . . Is that wrong? And what if God says no?

Thursday, June 2, 2011

Dear Walmart Shoppers

I wrote an open letter to Walmart Shoppers. If you think it's good, consider registering with Goodblogs and clicking "it's good" to help me out and get it to the front page where more people can read it!